#yin

As adults, we hvae many inhibitions against crying. We feel it is an expression of weakness, or femininity or of childishness. The person who is afraid to cry is afraid of pleasure. This is because the person who is afraid to cry holds himself together rigidly so that he won't cry; that is, the rigid person is as afraid of pleasure as he is afraid to cry. In a situation of pleasure he will become anxious. As his tensions relax he will begin to tremble and shake, and he will attempt to control this trembling so as not to break down in tears. His anxiety is nothing more than the conflict between his desire to let go and his fear of letting go. This conflict will arise whenever the pleasure is strong enough to threaten his rigidity. Since rigidity develops as a means to block out painful sensations, the release of rigidity or the restoration of the natural motility of the body will bring these painful sensations to the fore. Somewhere in his unconscious the neurotic individual is aware that pleasure can evoke the repressed ghosts of the past. It could be that such a situation is responsible for the adage "No pleasure without pain. ↗

— Alexander Lowen

#crying #emotions #feelings #letting-go #psychoanalysis

A lie that is half-truth is the darkest of all lies. ↗

— Alfred Tennyson

#lying #deception

and a charge of lying against someone whom you have always found truthful is a very serious thing; a very serious thing indeed. ↗

— C.S. Lewis

#charge #judgement #lying #truthful #judgement

I lie on the floor, washed by nothing and hanging on. I cry at night. I am afraid of hearing voices, or a voice. I have come to the edge, of the land. I could get pushed over. ↗

— Margaret Atwood

#fear #insanity #sanity #voices #sanity

The highest perfection of politeness is only a beautiful edifice, built, from the base to the dome, of graceful and gilded forms of charitable and unselfish lying. ↗

— Mark Twain

#lying #mark-twain #twain #art

But with her eyes closed, she began to whisper. “If you have someone to love, then love. If you have someone to forgive, then forgive. You think, when you’re seventeen, there’s time enough for that, but there’s not. There’s no time at all.” I squeezed her hand, trying to think of how to respond. But she took the burden from me and kept whispering. “You want to know why God gave us people to love? Because that’s the only way we can understand how he feels about us. Desperate and jealous. ↗

— Laura Anderson Kurk

#art #artist #dating #death #dying-words

You only get to walk variations of the same lines everyone has already drawn for you. ↗

— Courtney Summers

#high-school #high-school

Greg starts a middle school and asks: Why is "bullies" such a big PROBLEM? And says people need to shave twice a day. ↗

— Jeff Kinney

#bullying

The TV said you should ignore bullies and they would stop harassing you. In practice this worked about half the time. The other half, you ended up with two tall boys shadowing you through a trailer park, their fingers taking little nips at your clothes, like dogs. ↗

— Jennifer Echols

#bullying

Ignoring is what you are supposed to do with bullies, so they get bored and leave you alone. But the problem in school is that they don't get bored, because whatever else there is to do is more boring still. ↗

— Paul Murray

#schools #bullying