#settled

The ones who are not soul-mated – the ones who have settled – are even more dismissive of my singleness: It’s not that hard to find someone to marry, they say. No relationship is perfect, they say – they, who make do with dutiful sex and gassy bedtime rituals, who settle for TV as conversation, who believe that husbandly capitulation – yes, honey, okay, honey – is the same as concord. He’s doing what you tell him to do because he doesn’t care enough to argue, I think. Your petty demands simply make him feel superior, or resentful, and someday he will fuck his pretty, young coworker who asks nothing of him, and you will actually be shocked. Give me a man with a little fight in him, a man who calls me on my bullshit. (But who also kind of likes my bullshit.) And yet: Don’t land me in one of those relationships where we’re always pecking at each other, disguising insults as jokes, rolling our eyes and ‘playfully’ scrapping in front of our friends, hoping to lure them to our side of an argument they could not care less about. Those awful if only relationships: This marriage would be great if only… and you sense the if only list is a lot longer than either of them realizes. ↗

— Gillian Flynn

#marriage

I think there's a settled quality, there's a gravitas that comes with aging and with being a parent because you certainly come to recognize that there's nothing else that takes greater priority than raising your children. ↗

— Benjamin Bratt

#because #being #certainly #children #come

Well, pioneers always suffer. I don't care who is the first to embark upon things. For instance, settlers that settled the West, Western Canada and the U.S... they went though hell doing it, but it had to be done. ↗

— Bobby Hull

#canada #care #doing #done #embark

Beethoven, Wagner, Bach, and Mozart settled down day after day to the job in hand. They didn't waste time waiting for inspiration. ↗

— Ernest Newman

#bach #beethoven #day #down #hand

The 2008 election settled nothing, not even for a while. Our national politics are reflecting what appears to be going on geologically, on the bottom of the oceans and beneath the crust of the Earth: the tectonic plates are moving. ↗

— Peggy Noonan

#beneath #bottom #crust #earth #election

No sane person should believe that something is subjective merely because it cannot be settled beyond controversy. ↗

— Hilary Putnam

#believe #beyond #cannot #controversy #merely

In the beginning I thought, and still think, he did great good in giving support and encouragement to this movement. But I did not believe then, and have never believed since, that these ills can be settled by partisan political methods. They are moral and economic questions. ↗

— Ray Stannard Baker

#believe #believed #did #economic #encouragement

The voice doesn't take a lot of effort now, but in the beginning it was hard to try to find a voice. The one I settled on was just easier to do for a half-hour. ↗

— Dan Castellaneta

#easier #effort #find #half-hour #hard

Australia and Canada were settled by adventurers, they had to break new ground. I think that is indelibly etched on our cultural spirit. ↗

— Tom Cochrane

#australia #break #canada #cultural #ground

The minute you settle for less than you deserve, you get even less than you settled for. ↗

— Maureen Dowd

#even #get #less #minute #settle