#intimacy

The demand to be intimate or honest with a public can be invasive when the experiences of racial others are commodified as stories or objects that might be traded as evidence of intimacy, as proof of 'being good,' for nonracial others. In this way, intimacy might act as surveillance, through which some people--women of color, for instance--must reveal themselves to bear the burden of representation ('You are here as an example') and the weight of pedagogy ('Teach us about your people'). Intimacy can be a force--especially when others set its terms and conditions. So what if you don't love the (white) girls who exhaust you, who want too much from you, who want to turn you into a commodity or a badge or an experience to share? What if you become a girl in opposition to other girls? This is also the problem with definitions of racism as ignorance, and ignorance as the absence of intimacy--which posits that intimacy is the solution to ignorance. This gives us terrible, stupid disavowals like 'I'm not racist, I have black friends,' as if intimacy is a shield that protects the wearer from harm. It limits our sense of what racism is to the scale of the interpersonal, when it is in fact this enormous constellation of forces and moving parts that structures our institutions--and so-called institutions--profoundly. ↗

— Mimi Thi Nguyen

#ignorance #intimacy #race #racism #experience

Tu ești pentru mine relația necesară. Toți ceilalți sunt întâmplători. ↗

— Jean-Paul Sartre

#love #passion #relationship #love

...the religion of the heart is as intimate as a wish breathed to the night sky... ↗

— John Geddes

#intimacy #night-sky #poetry #religion #religion

Mozda se nijedna druga vrsta intimnosti ne moze uporediti sa dva polgeda koja se susrecu sa istom sigurnoscu i odlucnoscu i jednostavnoscu odbijaju da se puste. ↗

— Jostein Gaarder

#love #love

I love radio - its immediacy and especially its intimacy... it is part of your life, whispering into your ear. You can't see it, but equally importantly it can't see you. ↗

— Malcolm Turnbull

#equally #especially #i #i love #immediacy

Intimacy comes from being yourself on the stage and making the audience feel, without trying, that you're sittin' down there with 'em, playing, and that can happen in a big hall, if you have a good audience that want to listen. ↗

— Doc Watson

#being #being yourself #big #comes #down

Interestingly, the best way to promote intimacy is to demand it. ↗

— George Weinberg

#best way #demand #interestingly #intimacy #promote

I have similar feelings, actually. The intimacy of a club: you can see the people, you can almost feel them; you can't beat that. People will say things, and shout out, it's almost like they're up on the bandstand with you. ↗

— Benny Green

#almost #bandstand #beat #club #feel

San Francisco has always been my favorite booing city. I don't mean the people boo louder or longer, but there is a very special intimacy. When they boo you, you know they mean you. Music, that's what it is to me. One time in Kezar Stadium they gave me a standing boo. ↗

— George Halas

#been #boo #booing #city #favorite

If ever a man and his wife, or a man and his mistress, who pass nights as well as days together, absolutely lay aside all good breeding, their intimacy will soon degenerate into a coarse familiarity, infallibly productive of contempt or disgust. ↗

— Lord Chesterfield

#aside #breeding #coarse #contempt #days