#attachment

[On marriage and permanent attachment:] Well, well -- the prizes all go to the women who 'play their cards well' -- but if they can only be won in that way, I would rather lose the game ... [C]lever [women] bide their time -- make themselves indispensable first, and then se font prier [=play hard to get]. Clever -- but I can't do it. ↗

— Dorothy L. Sayers

#cleverness #deception #honesty #marriage #men

He who is void of virtuous attachments in private life is, or very soon will be, void of all regard for his country. There is seldom an instance of a man guilty of betraying his country, who had not before lost the feeling of moral obligations in his private connections. ↗

— Samuel Adams

#before #betraying #connections #country #feeling

The excitement that you were feeling about a special, unique path for yourself as a woman is all part of your identification with and attachment to being female. And that's ultimately all ego. ↗

— Andrew Cohen

#attachment #being #ego #excitement #feeling

You must be ready to give up everything, not only material attachments but also human attachments - father, mother, wife, children - everything that you have. But the one thing which you have to abandon unconditionally is your self. ↗

— Bede Griffiths

#also #attachments #children #everything #father

In between every action and reaction, there is a space. Usually the space is extremely small because we react so quickly, but take notice of that space and expand it. Be aware in that space that you have a choice to make. You can choose how to respond, and choose wisely, because the next step you take will teach your child how to handle anger and could either strengthen or damage your relationship. ↗

— Rebecca Eanes

#children #emotional-regulation #emotions #gentle-parenting #parenting

A thought is harmless unless we believe it. It’s not our thoughts, but our attachment to our thoughts, that causes suffering. Attaching to a thought means believing that it’s true, without inquiring. A belief is a thought that we’ve been attaching to, often for years. ↗

— Byron Katie

#suffering #thinking #thought #truth #change

Mostly it is loss which teaches us about the worth of things. ↗

— Arthur Schopenhauer

#death #loss #worth #death

Our attachments are our temple, what we worship, no? What we give ourselves to, what we invest with faith. . . . Attachments are of great seriousness. Choose your attachments carefully. Choose your temple of fanaticism with great care. ↗

— David Foster Wallace

#faith

At the most basic level, therefore, secure attachments in both childhood and adulthood are established by two individual's sharing a nonverbal focus on the energy flow (emotional states) and a verbal focus on the information-processing aspects (representational processes of memory and narrative) of mental life. The matter of the mind matters for secure attachments. ↗

— Daniel J. Siegel

#emotion #meaning #memory #neuropsychology #life

Why was I holding on to something that would never be mine? But isn't that what people do? ↗

— Bret Easton Ellis

#holding-on #human-nature #nature