The injunction that we should love our neighbors as ourselves means to us equally that we should love ourselves as we love our neighbors.

She attended a Friends (Quaker) school up through her high school years. Verlaine painted did figure drawings and illustrated several books written by Deming. During the time that they were together Meigs and Deming moved to Wellfleet Massachusetts where Barbara Deming befriended the writer and critic Edmund Wilson and his circle of friends.