Vengeance is not the point; change is. But the trouble is that in most people's minds the thought of victory and the thought of punishing the enemy coincide.

She attended a Friends (Quaker) school up through her high school years. Verlaine painted did figure drawings and illustrated several books written by Deming. During the time that they were together Meigs and Deming moved to Wellfleet Massachusetts where Barbara Deming befriended the writer and critic Edmund Wilson and his circle of friends.