How can families harm us when they love us? Very easily, unfortunately. Most of us overlook one important fact when we think love is enough: Love and respect aren't the same thing. Love is fusion. As a baby, you belong to your parents, you're extension of them. Respect is differentiation: you belong to yourself, and you're an extension of no one. Differentiation is essential for happiness of adults.

France Corfu Greece and Puglia Italy and a year-long program for writers and speakers called How To Write Your Own Success Story. Bibliography
Wishcraft: How To Get What You Really Want 1978 Viking Press 1984 Ballantine ISBN 978-0-670-77608-5
Teamworks: Building Support Groups That Guarantee Success! Warner Books 1989 ISBN 978-0-446-51461-3
I Could Do Anything If I Only Knew What It Was 1994 Dell Delacorte (over 700000 books in print translated into 8 languages)
Live the Life You Love In 10 Easy Step By Step Lessons 1996 Dell Delacorte (Winner of Best Motivational Book in first session of Books For A Better Life Commission 1996)
It's Only Too Late If You Don't Start Now: How to Create Your Second Life at Any Age 1999 Dell Delacorte ISBN 978-0-385-31505-0
Barbara Sher's Idea Book: How to Do What You Love Without Starving to Death 2004 Genius Press Unlimited ISBN 978-0-9728952-0-0
Refuse to Choose!: A Revolutionary Program for Doing Everything That You Love 2006 Rodale ISBN 978-1-59486-303-5


Other projects
Sher runs retreats for scanners in the U.

Barbara Sher is a speaker career/lifestyle coach and best-selling author of seven books on goal achievement. Sher's latest book Refuse to Choose (Rodale 2006) is a step-by-step program designed for "scanners" people with many interests who are unable to decide on a single direction for their lives. Her books have sold millions of copies and been translated into many languages.