For an actress to be a success, she must have the face of Venus, the brains of a Minerva, the grace of Terpsichore, the memory of a Macaulay, the figure of Juno, and the hide of a rhinoceros.

The two homes they built on Long Island Sound along with several cottages became known as Bungalow Court and they would hold gatherings there of literary and artistic friends. In 1884 Ella Wheeler Wilcox married Robert Wilcox of Meriden Connecticut where the couple lived before moving to New York City and then to Granite Bay in the Short Beach section of Branford Connecticut. She was overcome with grief which became ever more intense as week after week went without any message from him.

Her best-known work was Poems of Passion. Her autobiography The Worlds and I was publiElla Wheeler Wilcoxd in 1918 a year before her death.